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As a psychologist who specializes in dating and just wrote a book about single career women finding love, I wanted to consider what might be beneath this apparent battle of the single successful sexes and what might prove some common emotional ground: Many successful hard driving singles male or female want fun and comfort at the end of the day, someone to understand and support them. Traditionally successful men have picked less educated and younger women to take on this role.
Today some successful career women are doing the same. Sometimes they pick men who are less educated but more nurturing, romantic, supportive and playful. Many bankers male or female are heavily work focused and have little time for domestic pursuits, fun, planning vacations etcetera.
If they have a mate who excels at these things, it can balance them out and it will be less they have to deal with. After a day inundated with industry-related concerns it might be nice to escape shop talk, pressure and join someone in a completely different world to de-stress. This could apply to male or female bankers, or career singles in general. Wait it gets better He's constantly freaking out about challenges that wouldn't be challenges at all if he weren't such a delicate fucking flower.
I do not want to listen to him trying and failing to solve life problems that I consider insignificant. Also, my time is fucking valuable. If you get two hours on my calendar, I need to walk away with two hours' worth of good stuff, and I want a guy who expects the same from me. As I was reading her post, I can't help but to remember a few quotes that I have read from this article: At some point, I yelled at almost all of these men for not being "what I wanted," and, as we all do, turned to my female friends for consolation and support.
They're all gay or taken! For every loser I've screamed at, there have been nice, normal single guys with perfectly acceptable ZIP codes and ages and jobs and habits who never did a thing wrong but for some reason were chucked after the first or second, or maybe even third, date for being boring, predictable, too nice, too normal, not successful enough, or. The scariest of scary words. Let's talk about your typical "banker chick" in NYC.
Most banker chicks I have met are hardcore nerds. They went to the best high schools in their respective countries. If they were here for their MBA, they went to top notch undergraduates either in the US or in their home countries.
All of these banker chicks went to Ivy League. They are extremely delusional: I have met a girl at Goldman Sachs who works in their Quant group. She always wears Chanel, head to toe for every networking events and always give off condescending attitude. What they say and how they think. These are things that I actually hear: My current boyfriend is only an Analyst at a BB. I need to at least date someone who is at the VP level.
I am independent woman and I expect men to pay for dates and I also want someone who can take care of me, if I choose to be a full-time housewife. I am always confused what does this actually mean. Do you want to be a full time housewife or not? How can you claim to be independent while expecting men to pay? No, I am not kidding. I have been seeing a few other men on the side whom I find pretty attractive and excited to be with.
They feel that their current boyfriends are beta-males good providers while they look for fun with alpha -males. Btw, meet my newest family member named: MoMo, 4 months old male Pomeranian Here is how you should really choose your partner. Over the weekend, I had a conversation with a friend over lunch. We updated each other on how things were going in our lives and the people that we came across.
It's crazy how you adapt to that. These days when he finishes at 10pm I think to myself: I am changing as well. They don't know about us. But they must suspect something. All of a sudden, I start getting phone calls at 1am, 2am.
We used to talk on the phone every night before bed for at least 40 minutes to an hour. Now I just text him because I know there is no point in calling, he won't pick up.
I go to bed and wake up the next day to find his text.
Woman seeks rich husband, banker says "crappy" deal
It's an awful place, in his room there is just his bed and wardrobe. The kitchen is disgusting because it's never used. One time when I stayed there I had to wait till 3am for him to come home.
All this time I was just waiting and waiting, and back then he didn't even have a television or any internet. What I do now is I fill up my whole day and evening, because I don't want to sit in his flat waiting for him. I am thinking, tomorrow morning we'll have a chat and a lie-in. But then he gets an email, saying: It's the opposite, my man works too much. For me it was happiness, and being surrounded by loving people. For him that came second.
The job was first. He is the sweetest man in the world. And I can see that this is what he wants to do, that this job is where his heart is. I tease him about his weight gain. You're chained to your desk all day, I tell him. When he goes out running for lunch he'll call me. He'll ask, what should I order?
And we have this three way conversation with the guy taking the lunch order. Sometimes he gets to leave the office by 8pm. He calls and I feel I have to cut my program short because maybe we can spend an evening together, perhaps even go to a restaurant. When this happens I feel really stupid, leaving my friends and dropping everything for him. The power balance in our relationship has shifted completely.
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He's under a lot of pressure. His parents have financial difficulties and he is helping them pay their debts. He is very religious and he doesn't drink. This is not making things easier for him at the bank. In fact his parents have said that if he has to drink to get ahead at the bank, then this is okay. Same dilemma with strip clubs.
My position makes no sense, I know, but as long as we're not married, I'm okay if he has to go. But if we're married, then it's not acceptable.
So he will text me, asking: What's a good drink to buy a girl my age?
We were at a train station, he was so excited that he came running towards me and picked me up. People thought we were very strange, but we were just so excited — he had worked so hard and finally he had an offer. The other day we were talking about a friend of his who is also in finance, but with much better hours. I pointed that out to him and he went: